They say hindsight is 20/20.
I know that for a fact.
When young folks are in such urgency to marry, I cringe.
Why waste time getting to know someone you know you’ll love forever? They would wonder.
Ha! If they only knew. They will most likely eat up those words right back.
I usually say the following to those poor naive souls:
•Think twice about it.
•Get to know the person, and don’t rush it.
•Have clear expectations but, sure, be flexible.
•Consider differences in religion. If nonexistent or against yours, no amount of talking will ever join you two in that level.
•Both should agree that marriage is not merely a contract where they can split whenever they want. But regard it as holy matrimony, a bond that is far stronger.
•Expect to share household chores. But also expect to do more than the other. That’s how it sometimes works in teams too, unfortunately.
Oh, and let’s not forget that if one wants to attempt to dominate the other, they’re in for a rude awakening.
Marriage is a tough commitment to stick to. It takes so much work, yet I cannot say it isn’t worth it. The joys and pleasures of sharing life with someone whom you’re absolutely in love with (not lust, which is an entirely different thing that will definitely fizzle, as it’s always the case).
A marriage is indeed a partnership, or perhaps a wonderfully designed masterpiece, or even a delectable and succulent dish, but one that with the right combination can be so rewarding. If the right amount of color and technique (or ingredients) are added. Take the time to explore the possibilities, whether good or bad.
- Choosing a Partner (finerfem.wordpress.com)